In celebration of my two year anniversary with my wonderful boyfriend Sam, I thought I’d give an insight into what my relationship is like. As the title suggests, we unfortunately have to deal with a long distance relationship most of the time, due to attending university in different cities, but we have made it through the first of ten semesters apart.
Note: this post contains a lot of rambling. Get some snacks or something.
We met in 2010 by being randomly assigned to the same homegroup in grade 9. We were awkward and shy, but six months later we began dating. The relationship went well until just under one year later, when we “took a break” for thirteen months. In those months, I dated other people, and Sam and I came very close to dating again multiple times – but on July 31, 2012, we began our relationship from scratch again and continued our lives together.
The split was harsh – I was barely fifteen and he was my first love. Dating for a year at that age feels like forever, which only made it harder when it was all over. But, within the time we were apart, we remained close friends and continued to grow as individuals. My other relationship also ended badly, which strengthened me and prepared me for the possibility of complete heartbreak in any future relationships. I also credit this relationship for bringing Sam and I back together – the possibility of our feelings for each other ending brought him to reestablish our love, and in truth my feelings for him never faded.
Since we began our second-chance relationship, we were older and more mature than before. Our relationship was more real and less selfish, and things were noticeably different. This progressed through our senior years of high school, where I was diagnosed with a medical condition that hindered my daily life and school performance. He was there to help me through it all, and we both supported each other through the struggle of our final year of high school. Together, we helped each other to achieve our best results and both of us graduated with an OP1 – allowing us to complete our dream university degrees. Graduating high school concluded a huge part of our lives together, where we could see each other for hours each day. It was tough transitioning to a more separated life, but this separation only increased in the coming months.
My dream is to become a Veterinarian, where courses are only offered in Townsville and Brisbane. His dream is to become an Electrical Engineer, where courses are offered in nearly every major town in the state, but his dream course that offered him everything he wanted was only offered in Mackay. And just like that, we were being separated by 400 kilometres in a months time.
When we began university, it was tough but we managed by texting nearly constantly and Skype calling each other once a week, in order to see and hear the other. These Skype calls cut into study time, but it was a much needed break and a great opportunity to just talk like nothing has happened. Because of this, our relationship remained strong. I only returned home twice during the semester – once for Sam’s 18th birthday and once for my mid-semester break. Coming home at the end of semester one has been great for us, we’ve had the opportunity to return to a normal relationship, seeing each other often.
Long distance relationships are hard, but they can work with a little hard work, persistence and trust. They aren’t for everyone, but we couldn’t stand the thought of breaking up over a bit of time apart. To anyone in a long distance relationship or about to enter one: don’t stress. Trust your partner, communicate often and treasure the time you can spend together. All things bad will eventually pass, and with enough persistence a happy ending may be right around the corner.
Happy second anniversary Sam, I love you unconditionally, no matter what.
Sarah May xx